For the twenty-four years I’ve been a part of my church, I have known whispers and accolades of Mrs. G’s sauce. Of course anyone in this very New York-Italian family will lovingly remind you that this sacred meal is pronounced soo-wauce, not “sauce.”
It is nearly a rite of passage, as a member of our congregation, that at some point you are welcomed into the G’s home for this reputable meal. It is not exclusionary by any means. The G’s are some of the most humble and hospitable folk I have ever known. Their home and their hearts are open and they share generously with all.
Once, as a child, I dined in their home, but didn’t have the palate to discern anything other than dinner, but as an adult, I recently experienced the charming simplicity of their long established home, and this time
I could taste the magic.
Packed like sardines into the cozy, low-ceiling dining room with walls and window ledges bedecked with victorian style china and the like. Plates of parmesan and ricotta are amply situated at either end of the long table and Mr. G dutifully passes out napkins (not without a few wisecracks robed in an endearingly thick Queens accent).
Pasta and sauce are ladled onto plates with curled edges to collect every stray morsel.
I lift a forkful of the deep red, sauce-coated pasta to my mouth and before taking a bite I deeply inhale the aroma.
I chew meditatively, repeatedly lifting forkfuls to my mouth and basking in the rich depth of flavor. It is so subtle and yet so…
Umami. The perfect way to describe the mysteriously satisfying goodness that coated every bite.

I had to ask, of course, where this unprecedented meaty flavor came from.
Mrs. G replies rather simply, “pork neck bones.” The lowliness of the ingredient in contrast to the sauce’s superior outcome was somewhat stupefying.
It all made sense though.
Bones are the humble carriers of flavor.
Neck bones (as squeamish as it might make you to read that) are mostly bone, with very small bits of meat tucked throughout. They are very inexpensive and render powerful depth of flavor to a very large pot of tomato sauce.
They will change your sauce making forever.
If you are particularly dedicated to the cause of wasting less and extracting all possible good from a food resource, then take ten minutes to pick the tender meat from the roasted bones.
What results is a ragu that will make your mouth water.

Searing the meat before it simmers in the sauce, builds deep flavor that cannot be garnered any other way.
This is a test of patience and the payoff is huge. This recipe makes 3 quarts of sauce and renders roughly 3 cups of sumptuous meat. For the price of one quality store-bought jar of sauce, you get 3 homemade jars and a bunch of meaty goodness.
I usually use all the meat, along with one quart of sauce for a ragu style pasta, and save the other two quarts without meat. But you could also divide the meat evenly among all three jars.
This is such a rewarding meal to pull from the freezer for a last minute dinner.
It also makes a thoughtful and easy beginning to a spaghetti dinner that you might bring to a new mother, sick friend or friendly neighbor.
Like an unrushed afternoon in Mrs. G’s home,
this sauce tastes like care, like family, like deep-down soul fortification.


Authentic New York Italian Spaghetti Sauce
Ingredients
- 3 Tablespoons olive oil divided
- 3 1/2 – 4 lbs pork neck bones
- 1 1/2 Tablespoons kosher salt (for seasoning meat)
- 4 (28 ounce) cans crushed tomatoes
- 4 cloves garlic minced
- 1 teaspoon dried basil
- 1/2 teaspoon dried oregano
- 1/4 teaspoon red pepper flakes
- 8 oz water
- 1 teaspoon kosher salt (or to taste)
Instructions
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Heat a large dutch oven or soup pot to medium-low heat (You want to preheat the pot well, so be patient. Long moderate heat will create a pan hot enough to brown, without being so hot that it sizzles and pops).
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Thoroughly salt the pork neck bones with 1 1/2 Tablespoons of salt and add 1 Tablespoon of olive oil to the pan. Brown pork bones in batches. You do not have to cook through. Just get some color on all sides. Be patient. This takes time, usually about 40 minutes for me. I add a little more olive oil with each batch as it tends to disappear. Don’t overcrowd your pan or they won’t brown. Set aside the browned bones.
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In the now empty pot (wonderfully laden with pork drippings), add a little more oil if your pan is dry and then your minced garlic. Cook gently for less than a minute and then return pork bones to the pot.
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Pour in 4 cans of crushed tomatoes, basil, oregano, red pepper flakes, water and another 1/2 teaspoon of salt.
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Bring to a bubble and then reduce to a gentle simmer. Simmer for 4 hours. Remove the lid and simmer an additional 30 minutes to an hour.
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Remove pork bones to a cutting board to cool. Taste sauce and adjust seasoning (i.e. add more salt most likely).
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Once the pork bones have cooled, pick the meat from the bones. You can either add the meat back to the sauce or reserve it for one especially meaty ragu-style sauce.
Recipe Notes
This recipe makes approximately 3 quarts of sauce and renders 3 cups of deliciously tender meat.
For freezing, be sure to leave about 1 1/2 inches of room at the top of the jar (it will expand!).
20 comments
Nice!
I have never wanted spaghetti so bad in my life! Thanks for this!!
Haha! You’re welcome Katie!
This looks yummy!
Oh it most definitely is Sharla!
I’m a 2nd generation of American of Italian descent. I’m from Queens. I learned to make “gravy” (no one calls it sauce) from my immigrant nonna from Naples. Your recipe looks good, and I’d probably like it, but it’s very different from my family recipe. Nonna used very little garl8c, no oregano (that’s only for pizza sauce), and always a bay leaf and crushed red pepper. Regional Italuan recipes vary greatly. But yes, pork neck bones!
Your words were so mouthwatering! I felt like I could taste it before I even got to the recipe! 😊
Thanks Jessica! That’s such a compliment for a writer!
They are called pork neck bones in a pkg?
Yes, Sue!
okay linking it on my newsletter this saturday – out of town next two weekends but will try it soon!
bought the bones!
What would you substitute for neck bones, I can’t always find them. Short ribs?
Thanks for the question Deb! Short ribs would certainly be yummy, but those are beef, so they will give you a slightly different (but delicious) flavor than pork. I would look for either pork spareribs or “country style ribs” and drop in 4 or so. Or you could get a bone-in pork shoulder and ask your butcher to trim the meat from the bone for you, save and freeze the meat for another meal (like carnitas tacos!) and use the bone in your sauce (whatever meat is left on it will fall off and make that tasty ragu). Hope this helps!
Can you add Parmesan rind to this, and can you us who San marzano
Oh I love a good parmesan rind in just about anything Michelle! And yes you could certainly use San marzano tomatoes. Just crush them with your hands or an immersion blender. You may need to simmer a little while with the lid off if the sauce seems water. (Cans of whole tomatoes have a higher tomato-water content)
How about a Fennel? Can I add fennel and if yes how would you suggest?
Yvonne, do you mean fennel seed or fresh fennel?
She probably means fennel seeds. I would usere that & pinch it to release it aroma
I agree Meryl! A bit of fennel seed is a tasty touch to any soup or sauce! Just not too much or the taste will be overpowering. Maybe 1/2 teaspoon or 1 teaspoon, depending on how much liquid you have.